|Better Marriages North Carolina Council is a group of couples who believe in marriage, know that a good marriage takes some work, and that communication with other married couples really helps improve our own relationships. We are affiliated with Better Marriages, a nonsectarian nonprofit which is based in Winston-Salem, North Carolina. We are not affiliated with any religious denomination. The North Carolina Council invites you to consider making your marriage the best it can be. Help yourself while helping others!||
|Please look through our website and see how you can participate with other North Carolina couples.|
Educating Couples for Vibrant, Lifelong RelationshipsWe all want the same thing, whether our relationship has just begun or we've been married for years: We want a
relationship with the one we love. Check us out. We're confident you'll
find something that serves your interests well. Better Marriages North
Carolina exists to serve you as a couple, whatever the stage of your
life and relationship.
MissionTo promote better marriages by providing enrichment opportunities and resources to strengthen couple relationships, increase intimacy, and enhance personal growth, mutual fulfillment, and family wellness.
VisionTo create a network of couples building healthy marriages by providing marriage education and enrichment opportunities in partnership with other public, private, and faith-based organizations.
In September of 1967, and at the age of 60, David Mace moved to Winston-Salem, NC to become a Professor of Sociology with the Bowman Gray School of Medicine at Wake Forest University. Previously David and his spouse Vera had jointly served as executive directors of the American Association of Marriage Counselors from 1960-1967, and even earlier during the 1940’s as joint directors of the Marriage Guidance Council in England. They would both move to the United States in 1949 when David would begin his first decade of professorship at Drew University in New Jersey, before finally making their last move to North Carolina.
Following a lifetime of “working for better marriages”, David and Vera would establish the Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment (ACME) on their fortieth wedding anniversary in July of 1973. Following their slogan for ACME, “to work for better marriages, beginning with our own”, David and Vera would create an organization that married couples could join to express their support of marriage and grow in their marriage relationship. This emphasis would significantly differ from their earlier focus on counseling and intervention, and instead focus on enrichment and education. According to David Mace:
||“Our hope was that it might be quite natural (with no direct religious, political or professional connections of any kind) and might, therefore, become a coordinating agency for other organizations that were developing programs in this new field; that it might undertake the task of setting standards for leadership; that it might encourage the development of local chapters which could promote in their communities the cause of better marriage.” (Mace, Close Companions, 1982).|
Following the lead of David and Vera, a small group of North Carolina couples, many from the Winston-Salem area, soon joined to establish the Association for Couples in Marriage Enrichment North Carolina Council. With a focus on marriage support groups and education, the North Carolina Council has grown to include local chapters and marriage enrichment groups from Asheville to Wilmington.
Additionally, the North Carolina Council has presented an annual marriage enrichment conference for three decades, historically during the month of February. Most recently, following the lead of the national organization (Better Marriages), our state council has undergone a name change, becoming known as Better Marriages NC, and has continued to operate with one of the largest state memberships nationally. Additionally, North Carolina is the home of the Better Marriages national office, located in Winston-Salem, NC.
|Couples had a wonderful time at the Better Marriages NC's
annual conference on February 8-9, in Clemmons, NC. Using the theme of
"Keep It Simple Sweetie," we offered quality sessions
designed to help couples look at their relevant issues.
Presenters were local experienced favorites who present
marriage enrichment in very entertaining and meaningful ways, and
married couples had the opportunity to hear and dance to your favorite
songs during the conference! This was a great time to connect with
committed to their marriages and it was definitely a weekend to
remember. Check out the brochure here.
|Thank you to everyone who joined us for a fantastic marriage
enrichment experience in
North Carolina on Friday, April 20 to Sunday, April 22, 2012! From
quality sessions designed to help couples look at their relevant
issues, to fantastic local mountain music, dancing and dining where
couples connected with others committed to their marriages, to
exclusive time to enjoy the area's beautiful offerings, this was
certainly a weekend to remember. After this retreat
centered on a theme of music, many hearts continue to sing in harmony!
To see more about the program, take a look at the brochure here.
Babysitting was Provided
Babysitting was provided to attract some younger couples, and the starting time was an effort to make the meeting early enough for young kids and provide babysitting to reduce the cost.
Meeting Schedule for 2011-2012
Our other chapter meetings this year will be on the third Tuesdays of November (15), January (17), March (20), and May (15). Programs will be thought-provoking, interesting and fun and are appropriate for all ages and years of marriage. We would hope you will invite your friends, particularly younger couples, to join us for this meeting. We want and need to grow our local membership and we need your help in doing that.
Marriage Enrichment Groups Forming
At our first chapter meeting, we usually look at the Marriage Enrichment Groups to see which ones are changing, which ones might have vacancies, and the couples interested in joining a MEG. It would be helpful if you and your spouse talk beforehand and discuss whether your needs and schedules will permit you getting into a MEG. With the busy schedules everyone has, it is hard to be firm on meeting dates for a particular MEG but we'll try gather all of the pertinent information and do the best we can.
Local Chapter Dues
Local chapter dues of $25.00 for the year will be solicited at the Chapter meeting. It’s an economical way for the next nine months to provide a “date” for you and your spouse for five evenings, get you out of the house and see some extremely nice folks who share your desires for a Better Marriage.
Mace Medal Awarded to Carl and Nancy Terry
Congratulations are in order to Carl and Nancy Terry on their receipt of the Mace Medal at the Better Marriages Fiesta in Albuquerque, NM in July. The Mace Medal is the highest award given by Better Marriages to those who have made considerable contributions to the promotion of better marriages in their communities and across the nation (and world). Carl and Nancy have been active in local chapters (Newport News, VA and Raleigh, NC) and were on the National Board for a number of terms including a stint as President Couple. They are currently serving as President Couple for North Carolina. They have been instrumental in incorporating Better Marriages into other marriage efforts through programming and “cross’ training with others in the field. They are Better Marriages Ambassadors, a Certified Leader Couple, have served on the Training and Certification Committee, and currently are working at scheduling training workshops across the country. They are qualified to present to groups other information through such efforts as the Mentors program. They are richly deserving of this award and we congratulate them for not only the recognition they have received through this award but also the benefits that they have provided to many others through their efforts for Better Marriages.
||We had a wonderful time in 2011 at our annual retreat and conference. Using the theme of "Stop in the Name of Love: Relax, Reconnect, Renew," more than 40 couples gathered in Raleigh to focus on enriching their marriages. To see more about the program, take a look at this brochure.|
Visit these links to view a variety of materials for a wide range of couple interests, available from the Better Marriages national website:
|NC COUNCIL PRESIDENT COUPLE
Jim and Kathy Weidner
|NC COUNCIL SECRETARY/TREASURER COUPLE
Chris and Ron Musgrave
|NC COUNCIL PAST PRESIDENT COUPLE
Carl and Nancy Terry
|NC COUNCIL DIRECTOR COUPLES||
|Jim and Leslie Rhodes
|Joel and Joyce Goodwin
|Debby and Richard Howard
|Cranford and Othella Johnson
|Elaine and William Matthews
|Doug Burns and Janet Doughty